Parenting and raising kids is one of the toughest and most fulfilling jobs in the world. As parents, we want to give our children a good start in life and prepare to become thriving adults. Here are some tips that can help support you as a parent.
Care
Parents need to continue to show their children affection and love as a child grows and their needs change. Give them encouragement and praise. Even when your child makes a mistake, choose your words carefully, be compassionate and empathetic.
Consistency
Children need to know boundaries, so set limits. It is important to explain and model expectations for behaviors. Be kind, but firm while parenting. Create a consistent and predictable environment for your children. It is imperative that both parents are on the same page and work together. Keep in mind that things might change and be flexible.
Choices
Give your child choices. When children participate in decisions, they are more motivated to carry them out. Choice helps children feel like they have some power and control. Making choices is a step in growing up and is a skill they will use for the rest of their lives. Make sure the choice options are something that you can agree upon and are realistic.
Consequences
Make sure your expectations are clear and children understand what they mean. Avoid getting frustrated with your child when problems arise. Step back, breathe, and be mindful. Invite your child to work with you on a solution and together decide what consequences would be fair for the situation. The consequences can be positive or negative.
Communication
Create a safe space for communication with your child and check-in with them regularly. Ask how they are feeling, what challenges they faced today, or topics that they are interested in. Be an active listener, try to see the situation through your child’s eyes, and show empathy. Be available to talk day or night. Make time for your children and be present.
Anne Zander says
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